A weird type of PTSD - constant need to solve other people's problems

Can anyone recommend a remedy for someone who has been traumatized so badly by unsolvable problems (when they were a child) that they are constatnly trying to solve other people's problems, especially their adult's children.

The trauma started when she was a child, growing up in a severely dysfunctional family in poverty with a father that drank - horrible alcoholism.

Triggered feelings of helplessness.

Re-triggered when her daughter was born with a serious illness and the doctors didn't know what it was. Child screamed and cried for over a year.

Re-triggered feelings of helplessness.

Symptoms
-always giving advice, even though they have been asked, told and yelled at for giving unwanted advice
-constant compulsion to solve and fix problems in their children's lives
-emotional manipulation of others until the person does what they want.

Whenever her chidden had problems, and she felt helpless, she compulsively solved all their problems. Continues to do so now with her adult children, which angers her adult children...but she can't stop.

Other symptoms-
-She is very cold
-Right knee pain
-GERD
-back problems/bulging discs
-likes to gamble (had to stop gambling in real life, but she plays the gambling video games constantly
-chronic anxiety
-history of depressive episodes

I've been able to give her remedies for her physical problems, but they worsen her mental problems.

Calcarea seems to fit, but it makes her obsessions to solve problems worse, and causes her to get more anxious and depressed.

Sulphur helps back problems and GERD, but not mental problems.

Biggest thing that needs to be be healed - a feeling of helplessness compells her to try to solve everyone's problems, especially her adult children.

If her children won't do what she suggests, she gets very angry and will manipulate until she gets her way. Relentless nagging.

Thanks
[message edited by nature_girl on Wed, 10 Dec 2014 14:57:01 GMT]