healing through forgiving part 2

You must make a habit of forgiving. As long as you are not completely free of fear, it will keep returning – maybe you’ll hear or read of something frightening, or maybe something scary will happen in neighborhood. Such things indicate that you have not yet rid yourself of fear – not completely.

There are a lot of people who try forgiving a couple of times and then come to the conclusion, “This is rubbish. It is no use at all – just fooling people”, and continue on their course towards madness. But unfortunately – as you sow, so shall you reap. That’s life.

Someone carrying around a lot of guilt, gathered from previous lifetimes, tends to attract situations where he is blamed for no reason. He is often haunted by feelings of pointless guilt that make him depressed or nervous and upset. He feels blamed even before anyone has begun to say anything. Each word sounds like a reproach or an accusation.

It’s impossible to talk sense to someone feeling guilty. The greater the feeling of guilt, the more one often feels frighten of the future. A person feeling guilty inside needs to be blamed – and he is aware of this.

Chronic fear is rarely called fear but is still governs man. As well as causing obstructions to moving ahead, it also causes protest, anger and fighting against authority. The fighter chooses an angry combat against evil. The quitter drowns his fear in alcohol and drugs. The neurasthenic, addicted to tranquillizers, justifies his habit with disease.

The person fighting for good, not the one fighting against evil, will win.

Guilt grown to limit is transformed into fear. Fear, grown to the critical limit, turns into anger. Anger, grown to the critical limit, starts to destroy the person himself. (Remember)

Anger causes angry sickness – cancer.
It is not important whether you are visibly angry on the outside or are accumulating anger on the inside – the result is still the same. A fear of cancer will attract it even more effectively. Gathering up other people’s anger and storing it up, worrying, “Why are they doing this to me?” has a similar effect.


When a person is experiencing fear of not being loved, an imbalance of emotion and thought will arise, resulting in thoughtless action – mistakes

It doesn’t matter whether I am an angry person, or if people treat me viciously, or if they act angrily when I’m around, or if I fear angry people or hate them etc., I have a stress of anger in me.

The presence of anger attracts anger and anger grows.

Stage I – fearful anger.

1. Fear of anger – a fear that will destroy love causes agitation and panic.
Result – ALLERGY
2. A fear that I am not loved causes a need to suppress the anger in order to be loved = suppressed feelings.
Result – ASTHMA

Stage II – angry anger

1. The angry fight against the vicious because they are what they are – vicious.
Result – GALLSTONES
2. A fear of not being loved causes a need to hide the anger felt for the vicious – then others will love me = hidden anger.
Result – KIDNEY STONES.

Stage III malevolent anger

1. If no other way is found to deal with someone’s evil, then you wish him ill. When you say what you think straight to his face, an open argument will follow and the truth will finally come out, but if the other still refuses to change into the person the well wisher wants him to be, then the latter will not be satisfied and his malevolent anger will not go away but will continue growing and gathering strength for the next fight.

Result – SLOWLY DEVELOPING FORMS OF CANCER


2. A fear that I am not loved causes a need to hide one’s malevolent anger because everyone need to feel loved – nobody can ever get enough love.
Result – RAPIDLY DEVELOPING FORMS OF CANCER
Those who never raise their voice in anger, who are always patient and reasonable, the ones whom “life treats unfairly” fall into this last category.

Life is fair but we have to know the rules

Man in his passionate chase to win love, and in the need for acknowledgement and praise, does not see that in reality he is running away from fear. He doesn’t realize that his fear will always beat him in the race. As his goals remain un-reached, this good man starts to reproach himself, hate his inability and even curse himself when something doesn’t turn out the way he wants. Energy is blown in the wind. A feeling of constant exhaustion drives the dutiful man to keep on climbing the steep stairway of his dreams, gritting his teeth in silent anger and despising himself.

Everyone sees him as an ambitious person, dedicated to his work – a meticulous and orderly man. But even if he says he only keeps slaving for their sake, his wife and family will be robbed of his love and, sooner or later, of himself. In reality, he is doing nothing else than earning love, without realizing that the wall of fear he has built around himself keeps him from receiving as well as giving it.

Such a person is usually quickly consumed by cancer, but he can get well just as quickly, if he forgives his fear of not being loved. The recovery of people suffering from cancer caused in the described above has been a miracle to me. I have to stress, these are people who do everything including forgiving – meticulously.

The result is worthy of the effort.

If the cancer patient keeps on forgiving from morning till night, he will be cured in a couple of months. But should he, out of fear of not being loved, continue to slave away and earn love, keeping up a brave front – then he’s beyond help. A disease cannot be cured incidentally or dealt with as part and parcel of other more important matters. Each person has to set his priorities straight and expect a corresponding result.
The life philosophy of a person is mirrored in the state of his body, its health.

Death arrives when a person has understood his mistakes. It is a well known fact that a dying person sees his whole life flash before his eyes as if on a movie screen. This happens so that he can understand his mistakes. Anger makes you blind. That is the reason people suffering from cancer will see this movie of their lives time and time again before they are released from their torment. A cancer patient who has learned the art of forgiving and engages in it earnestly and in the right way can heal himself, and where the illness has progressed too far, his last fight will be short and easy.

If a cancer patient is to be saved, then his family and parents must change too. Another possibility would be for the patient to go into complete retreat in a secluded spot and communicate with nobody but his Teacher.

People who think in the right way are happy and, instead of wasting time on plotting revenge, they forgive. Their moments of anger never fail to make them laugh later on, because, although for a short while they lowered themselves to same level as their opponent, they understood the situation afterwards and forgave the ignorant.

The one who is wiser is always the first to give in, because I wise man thinks right and knows how to forgive the ignorant. He understands the ignorant. He, who gets angry with an ignorant person, is ignorant himself. A wise man doesn’t need to prove his wisdom.

AN EXAMPLE FROM LIFE

A little boy was suffering from recurring catarrhs of respiratory tract. The child was acting peaceable with his father and everything they did together went pleasantly and without problem. With his mother, he quickly got agitated and nervous. During her pregnancy, the mother had caused a stress of despising men in the child.

The mother’s father was a very masculine man with considerable physical strength but a soft nature. The mother’s mother, on the other hand, because of the relations between her parents, had a stress that men are uncaring and bad – that was her mother’s opinion. She started to despise her husband for his manly qualities. As a stress grows with time, her attitude caused her weak-natured husband to go downhill. He felt his wife’s scorn, started to drink and eventually stopped taking care of the family. The woman then has a firm argument in support of her attitude towards men.

The daughter had already been born by that time. She was the third generation of women harboring contempt for men in their hearts, and her bad feelings for them were threefold in comparison with those of her grandmother. She was facing a major problem: whether to marry at all. The natural attraction towards the opposite sex kept tipping the scales this way and that. In the end, nature managed to get the upper hand – she became pregnant. But her stress was passed on from the woman to the child. The boy, the little man, felt that his mother despised him, although in reality she had great love fro him. The stress was standing between them and kept the boy from getting close to his mother.

When the child was still in his mother’s womb, he could feel his father’s love reach out towards him. The warm relationship between them still remains. If the mother had not released her stress, then the son’s future relations with women would have been highly problematic, because of his feeling that women despised him. Natural sexual drive will always find its release but he would have left a string of disappointed girlfriends behind him…

The stress had to be released. Up to then, the boy’s mother had done everything within reason to keep the family together and the house warm and tidy. In fact, it would be impossible to do anything more on that level. However, her contempt for men, suppressed by her reasonable mind, kept growing with time, no matter how tender, loving and caring the husband was. And he too was getting worn out by the inexplicable tension between them…

There is always something more to be desired and each shortcoming may be looked upon as the man’s inability to accomplish this. The woman understood the nature of her birth stress and forgave. She momentarily started to see her husband in a new light. The son was then released from the tension and all the family was freed from the spell.

This sort of tension is like a curse that people so eagerly keep looking for and finding these days. You need no healer or psychic to release you from a curse. Each person has responsibilities for taking it on and each person is equally capable of setting himself free from it. You only need to think of what is haunting you and if you sense another behind that feeling, forgive him for his negative influence on you, forgive yourself for allowing the negative to enter you, and ask your body to forgive you for harming it by doing so.

If someone says, without even thinking, “Everything just turns out the wrong way, it is like someone has put a curse on me”, then it is quite possible that this is exactly what has happened. The subconscious information just came to the surface. You must learn turn to the curse and say something like, “Listen curse, I don’t care who sent you my way, I still forgive you for coming to me and I forgive myself for taking you in. my daer body, please forgive me for not knowing how to to take the curse from you before, but as of now, we are all free. I love you all, curse included, because there was a lesson here for me!”

Easy, isn’t it? Instead of being scared and torturing yourself more and more each day – forgive!

A lot of people carry around curses that that they have personally put on themselves. If someone curses a person who has a strong and positive way of thinking, then the curse won’t stick but instead, returns to the person who originally sent it. As the person who curses another is bound to have negative thoughts, he is also weak and the curse has no problem attaching itself to him. Some people err and curse themselves for doing so; some are reincarnated already equipped with a curse from a previous existence, including self-inflicted curses.

Asking for forgiveness sets you free!

If your life is a constant struggle against the wind, then stop this nonsense, seek a shelter and spend time talking to yourself and contemplating your life. Then you’ll be surprised to notice that the wind has changed direction.

Life is a vibration of energy – a wavelike motion, sinusoidal in its pattern – where positive alternated with negative. It is natural, necessary and right. If there were no bad, there would be no good either.

When you are having a good period, be happy about it. When things are not going so well, be happy that its not worse and know that everything will turn out well eventually. Usually is not possible to tell right away what negativity was good for, but if you think about it hard enough you’ll discover the blessing in disguise.

The person who finds this sort of attitude hard to accept will to suffer in life. The effect is worthy of the cause.

There is a lot of mistrust and even fear or bitterness towards good: “This is too good to last, anyway, nothing good ever happens to me. Lucky you, you always have all the good things in life!”

The laws of life apply to everyone. If someone’s bad times seem harder because of his negativity, then the other person’s good times are even better because of his way of thinking. What seems insignificant to one person may bring great happiness to another.

Man and woman are opposites. Their union is a sacred whole in which both sides have to be equal. The woman is stronger in her Spirit. She is weaker in body. The man is more vulnerable in his Spirit. This is a rule without exception and should be taken as such. Both should appreciate the strength of the woman’s feelings and the man’s body and take care not to break her physical strength or his feelings.

But what about the situation in reality?

From a materialistic viewpoint, the man is the stronger half but as Spirit always comes first in God’s kingdom, the woman is actually the stronger of the two.

It should be also remembered that life is a flow of energy, moving in a wavelike pattern between positive and negative or good and bad. That is a fact. If someone fails to enjoy the good times in life and spoils everything by moaning and groaning that bad times are just around the corner and he never has any luck anyway, he will just make the difficulties harder. A constant fear of future hardships will soon blind you to the delights of the present.

The end of the twentieth century is the age of the weak skeleton – this is our weak spot. So you can see why every reasonable human being should do his best to strengthen his bones to keep them from breaking or deforming. At present as many 78% of 13 year olds suffer from various kinds of bone deformations.

The skeleton is like a house. Soft tissues, (Soft tissue represent the woman and the female gender) supported by the skeleton, stand for everything that belongs to a house.

The bone structure is the father. (Hard tissue represents man or the male gender) People, whose fathers enjoy the respect of the family, have stronger bones in comparison with the average individual of the end of this century. Skeletal deformations speak of a weak father.

A pelvis that stands at an angle to the ground indicates that something is wrong with the family, i.e. the mother + the father. The spine is unable to lean on it properly.

Materialism, a point of view overestimating the materialistic side of life is a hard and bitter lesson for the whole of humanity. It has brought on a senseless hunt for riches that is still going on a hunt that puts men, as the stronger sex, in a very difficult position: if you are a real man, you’ll bring home a mountain of gold and put your wife on top of it. And the men want to be real men. The heartaches are buried deep and love is given a different definition: if you love me, you’ll provide, etc., etc. Only there’s not enough gold on this Earth to make everybody happy…

Can you imagine the fear that men must feel in this hunt, plus the additional fear of returning home empty-handed. Fear, as it keeps growing, accumulates into anger.

At one time we come into this world as men, at another, as women, but as each energy has its consciousness, there are also collective male and female memories. All accusations directed towards men (or women) in general, are also directed to each individual man (or woman).

The woman of the twentieth century feels the degeneration of men with painful clarity. Gossiping about the faults of men has become a favorite pastime of women, without considering that all is relative in life and the real situation may be something entirely different.

Dear women, please read the following lines very carefully, then, maybe you’ll understand that by throwing dirt on men in general, you are hitting your own father, husband and son. But the daughter, wife and mother of a soiled man will be soiled as well. Women are throwing accusations at their husbands, without realizing that they themselves may have done something wrong to begin with.

We are free to choose our own body when we are born into this world, because we need it as a means of learning. That goes for both men and women and everyone should love his body. The situation in real life, however, is quite different.


The spirit’s choice is a sacred one and, accordingly, the human body in its entirety is sacred. Women despise their periods without realizing that God has provided them with a monthly purification process that, taking into account the tendency of female emotions to overflow, allows them to rid themselves of excess negativity and do them good. While women tend to be nervous and easily upset before the period, afterwards they blossom serenely like flowers in the field.

The fear of getting pregnant as well as the fear of childlessness does nothing but attract exactly these same conditions – pregnancy or infertility. If you are scared of conceiving, the fear will disrupt the normal function of your ovaries. The ovum cannot depart at its proper time and, instead, starts moving exactly when you don’t want it to. Whom can you blame, then? Your body understands that you want to be frightened of getting pregnant. Convince it of your real intent and you will release the stress.

A woman scared of childbirth and at the same time afraid of remaining childless, spoils the natural flow of the process. Women often protest against wiping runny noses, preparing dinner, doing household chores and all the other million and one things to do at home. You should know that when you have to force yourself to do those things, your children tend to fall ill often, the food you cook has no taste and your home feels cold.

Dear women, rejoice in the wonderful gift that nature has given you – you have a mountain of love in your heart that can never run dry. Love cures a child more effectively than any medicine, food that has been prepared with love is delicious and, a loving home is a castle.

A mother who tells her sick child, “Let me make you some herb tea and my little angel will be well in no time.” knows that such tenderness and loving care is enough to make anybody feel better.

Another mother may groan, “Oh no, not again! How do you always manage to fall ill at the most inconvenient time! And I’ll have to buy you all that expensive medicine again!” Having to listen to such exhortations makes you feel ill enough to want to lie down.

Recently someone came to me with the following observation: “Have you noticed how even bread has become impossible to eat these days? When you look around a store, all you see are angry and dissatisfied faces. The same anger is sitting in our food. We should purify the bread in fire to get it clean again.”

Absolutely right! Every one of us should ask the bread (food) to forgive us humans for polluting it with our negativity. To do this, we should burn up all the bad things, that is, mentally purify our daily bread in fire. Another custom that should be revived is saying grace before a meal. The person who is busy with everything else at the dinner-table, except blessing the food, is sinning, and the body has to suffer for it.

If people, men and women alike, made a habit of sending their love to everything that surrounds them, the world in general, and each person’s life in particular, would be better and richer, including in the material sense of the word.

According to medical statistics some diseases are more common among women than men. Why is that?

Remember what you read before: the front side of the body carries the feeling, i.e. female energy; the back of the body carries the energy of the will, i.e. the male energy. Without doubt, female diseases are more often located in the front and male diseases in the back of the body.

Due to the collective consciousness of the gender, the man knows that he has a responsibility to provide for the material needs of the family (the country), and he continues to provide, more and more, forcing the growth of material values to such an extends that poor Earth groans under its weight. It is impossible to go any further.

But women keep insisting more…

Why do men keep on acting the way they do?

Mankind is in mental crisis, or, in other words, a crisis of love. Mothers have no time to love their children; they have to work like crazy to accumulate more on the material side. Boys suffer more from the lack of motherly love, because their spirit is more fragile than that of girls. When growing up, the boy subconsciously starts to strive for the love of a woman, the mother. “What kind of a man are you if you can’t so much as buy me a ticket to the movies!?” And the collective feeling of guilt bends to boy to the ground. It has nothing to do with a movie ticket – it is the humiliation that hurts most. As time goes by, the cinema ticket grows into a car, and then a house, but the eternal “what kind of a man are you!? doesn’t go away – it continues its destruction. The young man is soon impotent and finally gangrene may strike. It now seems that the woman is justified in demanding, “What kind of a man are you!?”

Think of the vicious circle most men find themselves in these days:

1. Fear of not being loved.
- Drives men to chase after fame and fortune senselessly and blindly

2. Fear of not being able to provide for the family. As the third and fourth lumbar vertebrae govern the reproduction organs, the terrifying feeling of guilt robs them of the wish to perform
- The man becomes impotent.
3. Inability to cope with economic problems breeds fear – if and how he
will be able to find the strength to fight it all?
- Gangrene strikes. If the right foot is afflicted, the problem has to do with the female gender, if the left foot is afflicted, with the male gender.


It is easy to blame somebody who is carrying around a load of guilt – he will admit to anything, even when fighting back with words. Any woman, who throws the same accusations in his face, will hit the target, and his own wife will surely score a bull’s eye.

The reaction to accusation differs from individual: some fight back angrily, some start to self-destruct quietly. There are lots of variations but in any case, both sides will lose – the woman as well as the man.

The headaches women so frequently suffer from – the radiculitis of the neck, aching shoulders and hands – what are they caused by? And, what about the tears, the despair, the regret? Again, the same thing. The cause is the fear of not being loved. The bigger the fear, the more serious the sickness. And what is the cause of fear? The accumulation of guilt. Even if we do our best to deny our mistakes, our spirit knows the truth and reacts accordingly.

What is the heart of a woman? It is a never-drying up fountain of love. So, draw from it the substance it is so rich in – love. If you love and forgive, your life will return to normal.

Women have to ask men in general and our partner in particular to forgive us for all the blame women have put on men, even id we personally have never uttered an accusing word. We should ask them for forgiveness, even if we have never thought such things ourselves but have quietly agreed with other women, because their husbands are supposedly no good at all.

Women have to forgive themselves, for humiliating men. Women have been demeaning themselves. They have cast destruction on the whole of human kind, as by their actions, the men are stopped from swelling the population. The child of a mother with such views, irrespective of its gender, will carry the same stresses and complexes from birth.

Now, this is not meant to be taken as an accusation against women or pity for men.

The man is the head; the woman is the neck, supporting the head. Both are important, but the man is still the head. Men should take pride in their clear and logical thinking and have more dignity. Everyone in this world should know his proper place and obligations towards Mother Nature. Everything blocking the road and standing in the way of progress will be set aside. Often the release is carried out on the physical plane – by dying or destroying someone else. The one who destroys will have to pay, and if he says: “I don’t care!” he very soon will.

Forgive women for their shallow logic and their thoughtlessness. Forgive them for their accusations – they are just cries of pain from the bottom of their heart, out of fear that love is disappearing. Forgive the mothers for not knowing how to bring children into this world with love and for not finding the time to raise them. Forgive them for asking fear to baby-sit for their children. It is a lesson for the whole of humanity and he who understands it and forgives will be released from all this distress. His family will be whole.

If your family has been torn apart or your spouse has died, then you should know that by forgiving the past you are building your future.

The first thing you should do is to talk to your stresses. Forgive your fear, guilt and economic problems just the way they are. Forgive yourself for having taken them inside you and ask your body to forgive you for harming it by doing so. It will then be easier for you to forgive and ask forgiveness of all women, and all women can forgive all men in the same way. Mistakes are made to be learnt from.

I often hear a frightened woman complain, “Doctor, I have been told that my health is in such a terrible state because of my husband – he is sucking the life energy from me like a vampire. What am I to do? He treats me so badly.”

What else was the poor man supposed to do!? His life depends on his wife’s love, but she is keeping it walled in, while at the same time torturing her self with the fear of not being loved. The man is the taker by nature and the woman is the giver – that’s a fact of life.

Dear women, you must release yours fears and let your love flow free. Don’t be afraid that the fountain of love in your soul will run dry. If you give, you’ll receive back twice as much. You’ll find yourself falling in love with your husband over and over again, just as it used to be at the beginning of your relationship. Remember the good times and the precious moments. Know that if you feel unhappy, you have to let the bad things go in order to let the good things into your heart. Don’t think for a moment that your husband is enjoying his bad behavior. Vicious people feel terrible bad inside because they are suffering from a deficiency of love.

The man is the taker and the woman is the giver – it is as simple as that. But you can only take care if there is something to give. If a woman gives freely because she enjoys her role as the giver, then the man will receive happily, enjoying his role. He, in his turn will give his physical strength and reasoning mind. Both are tied together by a happiness that keeps on growing in time. Love can grow only by giving. Unfortunately, mankind today has been more of a taker, demanding what he considers to be rightfully his and getting angry if refused.

Think for a moment about your work colleagues. Maybe there is someone playing the vampire, just like the man in the last example. Instead of avoiding him, forgive your fears and let your love flow to him. Feed him with your love and you’ll see that very soon the so-called vampire will cease to exist. What remains is an eager individual who hurries on to the future at such a rate that his own energy is not enough to keep him going.
When the wall of fear falls down, the energies are set free and not only your immediate department but the whole company will start to move upwards with surprising speed. I would be pleased if you have read it with sense, and I hope you read it again, repetition is the recipe towards wisdom!

Dr.Beek
The final part 3 will follow shorly